You can either stand up or stand down. Plus, what to do with that Facebook update you weren't supposed to see.
My friend is constantly taking creepshots of me on Snapchat or just the camera and posting them online, either on Instagram or on Facebook. (They're not inappropriate or anything, but still.) It is starting to get on my nerves. How do I get her to stop?
I've said it before, and I'll say it again: Taking/keeping pictures of someone who doesn't want you to take/keep them is one of the absolute weirdest, most annoying, meanest things we do to the people that are supposed to be our friends. It's also HILARIOUS, so, therein lies the problem. Ban cameras and videocameras and anything else that can make tangible our collective, embarrassing existence.
I think that if you are ACTUALLY mad at your friend, in a way where the creepshots make you uncomfortable and unhappy and resentful, you should have a Serious Sit Down Talk with her and tell her how you feel. Don't joke, or say, "This isn't a big deal," or apologize for being upset, because doing so will make her think you aren't all that bothered by it and she'll keep doing it because that's what she wants to do. Hopefully she will respect your request. If she doesn't, she isn't a good friend.
If, on the other hand, you don't care THAT much and are just a little irritated by the creepshotting, you should ignore it completely, because taking creepshots of a friend who doesn't care or engage it in anyway is just not that fun. Help this person find a new hobby.
John Herrman, frequent creepshot-ee.
A promoter who uses my website sent me a Facebook friendship request today, and since I don't want him reading my posts for obvious reasons — I prefer to only offend friends and family with my posts, not people who make me money — how do I tactfully reject a Facebook friendship request from a professional acquaintance and add him on LinkedIn instead?
This is an easy one: Just don't care. Who cares! Ha ha. Hey, that was easy.
The thing about friendship requests from strangers you don't see IRL is that they will probably never ask you why you haven't accepted their requests yet, because I think almost all of them know that doing so would make them seem like sad maniacs. So you ignore it rather than denying it outright, because then it just sits there and maybe he thinks you don't use Facebook much because you are so busy doing such a good job at your…job. That would be nice for you, if he happened to interpret these events in that exact way! But also it's maybe better if he just doesn't think about it. Which he probably won't, because you aren't a girl or a boy he is hoping to make out with. (Right?)
So while that request sits there for eternity, you can send him a LinkedIn request in its place. There's no need to acknowledge that this is an exchange. This person will accept you on LinkedIn, and the two of you can do whatever it is that LinkedIn friends do, and that's that.